I think all or most of us must either have this experience or read it for somewhere. There is a saying or belief that says “When girls say no they don’t actually mean no”. Who believes this? You? How thick can you be?
Because the existence of this saying, most idiotic guy screw up in their relationship. It is not a hundred percent rule. Whether it is applicable depends on the situation, the personality of the person yada yada yada. What worse is, guy don’t know when it the girl really meant no when say no. Usually they will take no as yes when it comes to sex and most of them are lucky enough for the girl did not report it as rape.
Well, the thing is, this saying applies to both sexes, men and women alike. In shot, it applies to all human. Girls are not the one using or having that attitude. For the girls, how many time when you think you did or said the wrong thing and when you turn and ask your boy if they are offended what so ever they only reply – Nothing. But they like as if they just got their testicle pierced.
Sad thing. Human never able to be truly honest, not even to their dearest of all. Human tend to think it is better to let it pass. But do they? No they don’t. When they utter out “Nothing” or “No” they are already making a subconscious note in their mind. They said “nothing” but yet they feel victimized. All those “no” and “nothing” case will be accumulated, until one day when they quarrel about some totally unrelated issue, all hell will break lose and they will dig out all the old files and audit them one by one…
Remember that time you ate the last meatball we have?
-I asked you, you say don’t want duh…
Can't you see I was not happy?
-You look weird, I thought you (for girl – PMS, for guy – stomach ache or some illness)
You know I always like meatball!
………
But yet, why can’t they just speak their piece of mind that time? If they don’t care about it, why dig it out later? Or they did care about it, did take offence whatsoever, but their ego is big they want to play the part that sacrifices itself for the sake of relationship. Come on…so that they can boast to their friend when they have their small talk.
That day G ate my last meatball during dinner, you know I always like meatballs.
-Oooo (yeah big deal)
And G still dare ask me if I’m ok with it… G should know right, I love meatballs.
-Then what you say?
What can I say? Let G have G’s own way la. Never mind one, relationship is like that la…
-Yeah, you’re right dude (come on).
In relationship, both parties will always think they have made contributions, sacrifices and giving themselves credit. Even most of they will say they do it without hoping for anything in return, unconditional love. Haha…If you are really love unconditionally, you won’t even think you are making sacrifices unconditionally. You just do it, naturally
Because the existence of this saying, most idiotic guy screw up in their relationship. It is not a hundred percent rule. Whether it is applicable depends on the situation, the personality of the person yada yada yada. What worse is, guy don’t know when it the girl really meant no when say no. Usually they will take no as yes when it comes to sex and most of them are lucky enough for the girl did not report it as rape.
Well, the thing is, this saying applies to both sexes, men and women alike. In shot, it applies to all human. Girls are not the one using or having that attitude. For the girls, how many time when you think you did or said the wrong thing and when you turn and ask your boy if they are offended what so ever they only reply – Nothing. But they like as if they just got their testicle pierced.
Sad thing. Human never able to be truly honest, not even to their dearest of all. Human tend to think it is better to let it pass. But do they? No they don’t. When they utter out “Nothing” or “No” they are already making a subconscious note in their mind. They said “nothing” but yet they feel victimized. All those “no” and “nothing” case will be accumulated, until one day when they quarrel about some totally unrelated issue, all hell will break lose and they will dig out all the old files and audit them one by one…
Remember that time you ate the last meatball we have?
-I asked you, you say don’t want duh…
Can't you see I was not happy?
-You look weird, I thought you (for girl – PMS, for guy – stomach ache or some illness)
You know I always like meatball!
………
But yet, why can’t they just speak their piece of mind that time? If they don’t care about it, why dig it out later? Or they did care about it, did take offence whatsoever, but their ego is big they want to play the part that sacrifices itself for the sake of relationship. Come on…so that they can boast to their friend when they have their small talk.
That day G ate my last meatball during dinner, you know I always like meatballs.
-Oooo (yeah big deal)
And G still dare ask me if I’m ok with it… G should know right, I love meatballs.
-Then what you say?
What can I say? Let G have G’s own way la. Never mind one, relationship is like that la…
-Yeah, you’re right dude (come on).
In relationship, both parties will always think they have made contributions, sacrifices and giving themselves credit. Even most of they will say they do it without hoping for anything in return, unconditional love. Haha…If you are really love unconditionally, you won’t even think you are making sacrifices unconditionally. You just do it, naturally
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