Tuesday 27 December 2011

Johari ar~ Johari~

"Johari Window:
Open: Adjectives that are selected by both the participant and his or her peers are placed into the Open quadrant. This quadrant represents traits of the subjects that both they and their peers are aware of.

Hidden: Adjectives selected only by subjects, but not by any of their peers, are placed into the Hidden quadrant, representing information about them their peers are unaware of. It is then up to the subject to disclose this information or not.

Blind Spot: Adjectives that are not selected by subjects but only by their peers are placed into the Blind Spot quadrant. These represent information that the subject is not aware of, but others are, and they can decide whether and how to inform the individual about these "blind spots".

Unknown: Adjectives that were not selected by either subjects or their peers remain in the Unknown quadrant, representing the participant's behaviors or motives that were not recognized by anyone participating. This may be because they do not apply or because there is collective ignorance of the existence of these traits."


I put this name, Johari in my Facebook ID. Reason, to remind me of this phenomenon.
 
There are always part of me that already well known, and I need not elaborate more.

There are parts of me that are hidden, which I only disclose to a few close ones.

There are parts of me that I never see, but others can; and I hope those that can let me know. If it is good, I’m happy to continue. If it is bad, help me to improve.

There are parts of me that neither I nor others know. That, is something we need to discover together.

If there is a day when someone tell me a flaw in me, that I never aware of, what will I do? Will I able to accept that flaw is part of me? Will I even acknowledge it? Will I able to really stop it? I do not know.

Is it intended? I know not. Am I the person I always think I am? I know not. I know what I want, but I can’t read myself. That’s why I do need others…to let me know where I did wrong, to let me know my flaws.

There are times when my flaws become hurtful to others. I do not expect forgiveness, but at least a chance of redemption, a way to improve, an encouragement to fix it. Do I expect too much?

Nobody’s perfect. Is that my excuse or a fact? Do I mean what I say? I believe I do, but my action did say otherwise. Is that me? Yes it is.

If there is a mistake, I blame no one but myself. But sometimes, I alone has no the strength to overcome it. I do need help. So please help me. It can be as simple as a moral support, or an encouragement or just a space for me to speak up.

I don’t like to bring my sorrow to my close ones. Yet I can deny I need them in order for me to go on. I’m a lonely man. I have taken a lot by myself, for 30 years. I’m tired.

So, please don’t ignore me when I need you most. I need support most, when I realized I am not the man I think I am. It shattered my confident, dimmed my hope, sucked my energy away, lost my way.

It is horrible. I can’t take it. 

Sunday 4 December 2011

我。。。要重新胡說八道了!

得空沒事屁股癢,回到這部落客來發現。。。上一個post竟然是一年多的事情了!
天打雷劈!慘不忍睹!
回想以前讀書的時候,一年三百六十五天, blog裡最少也會有三百六四五篇。。。如今。。。
現在有點難想像,怎麼當初能一天寫一篇呢?
為何如今什麼都寫不出呢?
老了嗎? 悶了嗎?沒東西分享了嗎?沒想法了嗎?沒有不吐不快的事了嗎?
非也非也~
都不是。
也許是因為一天最少都要對著電腦工作,打電郵八個小時,回到家時就沒什麼想寫東西了。
就算心裡有很多事想分享,就算有很多委屈想吶喊,就算有數不盡的意見,看法想表達。不過就是懶。
雖說都還是臉貼著電腦,不過都是在面子書,其他網頁遊覽。只是不停的接收並沒那個勁去傳授。
James Bond電影系列分享第二篇寫了一半就在draft裡呆了一年多。。。
假面騎士系列的分享也停了良久。。。
該是時候繼續吧?
三十了,快要三十一了。。。該有所領悟。。。該會有很多事要分享的。。。
不管有沒有人看,我自顧我開心的寫就算了。
我。。。要重新胡說八道了!

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